The Myth of Loneliness

(This blog was original published by Jean-Marie Jobs in January 2016.)

“I do it myself!” is a familiar sound if you’ve ever been around a 2 or 3 year-old.  The reality is we don’t change much in that respect.  If anything, our tendency towards independence grows with our years, until we find ourselves not wanting to give up our driver’s licenses when we’re too old to drive safely.  And what happens in between all those years? We find ways to communicate to others, often others we love and are close to; that we don’t really need them.  I got this, I’m good, no I don’t need help, it’s fine – spew from our mouths all too frequently.  What’s the purpose of this messaging?  Self-protection.

It’s a fascinating dichotomy – here we are, created for relationship yet we invest abundant time and energy communicating we are just fine on our own.

Especially here in America, we tout independence as our heritage or birth right.  We elevate the notion as something to be achieved.  Every successful person in the world has benefited from support, encouragement, teamwork, a great coach, a loved one’s words. What if we just stopped pretending we could make it on our own? What if we said “Yes, I need…(fill in the blank)”?  Would that make us weaker?  Would we accomplish less? What message would we send by acknowledging our need?

Galatians 3:10 And that means that anyone who tries to live by his own effort, independent of God, is doomed to failure. (from THE MESSAGE)

The Gospel itself begins with the acknowledgement of need.  We can’t make it on our own – our own works, our own righteousness, our own thoughts. We need. You need. I need. And it’s perfectly human.