It’s Not Fair!
(This blog was originally published by Jean-Marie Jobs on August 31, 2015)
I often find myself in conversations around ‘fairness’ – both with myself and other people. What is fair? Is it equitable, equal, sameness? We’ve all heard the expression “life’s not fair” and I’m sure all have found this to be true in many ways.
Notice how often we expect fairness – at our workplaces, churches, in our relationships, marriages. If fair means equal, then some contexts are perhaps more relevant than others. For example, in the eyes of the law, we all want equal or fair treatment. Life in the Kingdom of God however often seems ‘unfair’. My prices for certain choices are different from yours. Your blessings are not the same as mine.
I wonder how our demand for ‘fairness’ sabotages our relationships; tempts us to keep score; diverts our focus to what we’re not getting versus how we’re giving and who we are for others. When I look to the Scripture for fairness I find this verse in Proverbs 2:1-9
My son, if you accept my words
and store up my commands within you,
2 turning your ear to wisdom
and applying your heart to understanding,
3 and if you call out for insight
and cry aloud for understanding,
4 and if you look for it as for silver
and search for it as for hidden treasure,
5 then you will understand the fear of the LORD
and find the knowledge of God.
6 For the LORD gives wisdom,
and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.
7 He holds victory in store for the upright,
he is a shield to those whose walk is blameless,
8 for he guards the course of the just
and protects the way of his faithful ones.
9 Then you will understand what is right and just
and fair — every good path. NIV
It seems there’s quite of bit of intention and action on our part before we can even understand what is fair. Instead of complaining or demanding fairness, consider what action you’re taking to seek the Lord this week.