I Don’t Wanna!

By Chris North

Have you ever had to do something you don’t want to do? Duh! Of course you have. Dumb question right? But what if it’s not? What if I could prove you wrong? Think about it. What is something right now that you have to do that if you’re honest you’re kind of not happy about? You might say “I have to pick up my kids from school & get them to practice on time” or “I really need to focus on getting my taxes done”.  Unless the thing you’re talking about is breathing (which you probably want to do anyway), my guess is that you don’t actually have to or need to do that thing. Right? So why do them?

I talk to people all the time who think they have to do this or, need to do that or, should really… fill in the blank. The truth is we are actually completely free to do or not do those things. The reason we do them is because we actually want the outcome they provide. Or at least we do not want the outcome of not doing them ie. Child neglect, getting in trouble with the IRS or worse, our spouse. So why do we torture ourselves by choosing to see ourselves as a helpless victim doomed to forever fulfill the crushing meaningless tasks of adult responsibilities? Is this what our creator had in mind for us? “Live to work, work to live, life’s a bitch & then ya die”.  Answer? No. At least not if you’re of the faith I hold to.

If we look throughout our journey of creation, the life, death, & resurrection of Christ, we see choice everywhere. When God put two trees in the garden? Choice. When Jesus gave the sermon on the mount saying “if someone takes your shirt give them your jacket also”, “turn the other cheek” and “go another mile” he was taking someone who was oppressed and giving them their power back. How? By putting choice back into the equation. That sermon in Matthew basically illustrated their version of “you can’t fire me. I quit”!  AKA choice. As a matter of fact I might go so far as to say that everything Jesus did from creation to resurrection was for one purpose: to put choice back in the equation.

Choice empowers us. When we replace words & phrases like have to, need to, aught to, or should with words like want to, choose to, commit to and enjoy, we literally take our power back. Try it right now. Take that thing you have to do and change the way you relate to it. Turn every have to into “choose to”, every need to into “I’m committed to”, and every should into “could” and see what happens to your mindset. Feel the power shift & act accordingly.